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First and most importantly, you are not alone. Our families, including our founders’ families, usually had no experience with gender issues prior to learning about their own child’s gender identity and expression. We have a wide range of resources for young people, for educators, and for healthcare professionals, but we also know that you need guidance and support as well, just as we did when we first learned about these issues. Below are some key resources, but don’t hesitate to contact us if we can be of further assistance.

TYFA Resources

Our materials are available as both web pages and printable PDFs. You may print, link to, or distribute these documents by mail or electronically (without additions or modifications per our copyright notice).

Frequently Asked Questions 

Answers to common questions from parents, educators and practitioners. (PDF)

Learning the Lingo

An introduction to language used when discussing gender variant and transgender children. (PDF)

Tips For Parents

Designed to provide reassurance to parents. (PDF)

Recursos en español

Copies of the above 3 resources, translated into Spanish.

Assembling a “Safe Folder”

A “safe folder” is a collection of documents that are assembled in a binder or folder. It will be useful in protecting your family and educating others. This is something that you should not put off until you I “know for sure.” As soon as you suspect that your child might be transgender you should begin assembling this folder.

Being an Effective Advocate For Your Child

How do you go about making sure your transgender child is accepted? Here are some effective guidelines as to how to proceed.

TYFA Media Manual for Parents

Families who agree to share their story for the purpose of educating the public should be assured that their story is going to be portrayed in a positive manner. They should feel confident that they are not sharing their story for the sole purpose of boosting ratings. (PDF)

Research Participation Guidelines

Have you been asked to participate in a research study? It can be empowering to engage in efforts to change public opinion, policy, and mental health and health care delivery and policy, but always check out the people asking you for your time, thoughts and stories. Above all, if the project doesn’t “feel right”, even if you can’t put your finger on anything specific, DON’T DO IT before you contact us. (PDF)

TYFA Brochure

This professionally-printed brochure is helpful for those who want printed literature to give to interested parties.

Understanding Through Education, K-12, A TYFA Workshop

TransYouth Family Allies is the only National non-profit organization that educates and advocates exclusively for gender variant children and transgender youth. As such, we have unparalleled expertise and experience to draw on when partnering with educational institutions. We have worked with hundreds of schools and organizations, in every type of political climate, all over the United States. This extensive experience allows us to anticipate many of your concerns and to effectively address those that will come up due to your unique environment. (PDF)

Guidelines for Confirming GID Diagnosis

Composing the letter from Pediatrician/Family Practice Doctor. (PDF)

Recommended Reading

A list of selected books for children, teens, adults, and educators.

Difference isn’t wrong…it just is

Introduction to gender variant and transgender children and their families. Feature article by TYFA Foudning Member Kim Pearson. (PDF)

How Young Is Too Young?

Written by TYFA Advisory Board Member Reid Vanderburgh, MA this piece addresses the difference between gender identity and sexual orientation as well as the joys and challenges of childhood gender transition. (PDF)

TYFA Apparel and gifts

All profits benefit programs for TYFA children, youth and families.

Other onsite documents

Many of these documents should be printed and placed in your Safe Folder.

Endocrine Treatment of Transsexual Persons: An Endocrine Society Clinical Practice Guideline

Published in June, 2009, this lengthy set of protocols for the treatment of transgender persons is the current standard for use by endocrinologists in the U.S. Archived in the Practitioners and the Parents Resources sections of this website. (PDF)

Clinical management of gender identity disorder in adolescents

A protocol on psychological and paediatric endocrinology aspects — Treatment outcome in transsexuals is expected to be more favourable when puberty is suppressed than when treatment is started after Tanner stage 4 or 5. (link)

American Academy of Pediatrics

This document is excerpted from “Caring for Your School-Age Child: Ages 5-12″, Bantam 1999. It was publised by the American Academy of Pediatrics and briefly illustrates that by age 4, children’s gender identity is stable, and they know they will always be a boy or a girl. (PDF)

AMA Resolution 122: Removing Financial Barriers to Care for Transgender Patients

A resolution by the American Medical Association in support of insurance coverage by insurance carriers for the treatment of transgender persons. (PDF)

To the Beat of a Different Drummer

The article describes the gender variant child. Gender variance is defined as a behavioral pattern of intense, pervasive, and persistent interests and behaviors characterized as typical of the opposite gender. Gender variance, though, not a common issue in primary care practice, should be taken seriously when it presents. (PDF)

Transgenderism overview by Norman Spack, M.D.

This article from Lahey Clinic Medical Ethics journal highlights the ethical concerns of providing treatment for transgender children. (PDF)

Offsite resources

In addition to our list of online resources for supportive adults, we recommend the following information specifically for parents.

These resource articles have been published by various authors and are provided here for your convenience. Please print as posted here and give credit to the original source/author.

The Trevor Project

Depression and suicide are among the common results of unresolved gender conflict in teens. The Trevor Project is a non-profit organization that operates the only nationwide, around-the-clock crisis and suicide prevention helpline for LGBTQ youth. TYFA and The Trevor Project frequently work together to present workshops for parents and other concerned trans youth allies and friends. As an example of their fine work, Trevor volunteer Randy Stone recounts his experience when he answered a call from a teen who was despondent and had lost all hope.

Harsh Realities: The Experiences of Transgender Youth in Our Nation’s Schools

This important 2007 report, issued by Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN), contains an in-depth account of the experiences of transgender students. (PDF)

National School Climate Survey

GLSEN’s National School Climate Survey, the only national survey concerning the school experiences of students who identify as LGBT, show that issues of sexual orientation and gender identity remain a very big deal in our schools, This comprehensive 174-page document demonstrates the urgent need for the education of school administrators nationwide.

GLBT-Friendly college campuses

Campus Pride is providing a search and rating facility for GLBT-Friendly college campuses. Each campus listed is given a rating of from 1 to 5 stars and each has a comprehensive list of things you need to know.

World Professional Association for Transgender Health (WPATH)

The WPATH Board Committee on Public Policy, Advocacy & Liason has issued a very important statement which lays a strong foundation for removing exclusions for medically necessary health care treatment and insurance coverage for transgender children and adults.

GIRES Website

Gender Identity Research and Education Society, a comprehensive document describing treatment options available for adolescents in other countries.